Do you think she is a nag? Is he too stubborn to do
as you ask? Both of you need to calm down and
take another approach or things can lead to the
end of your relationship.
Here are some suggestions to resolve your
conflicts:
1. Approach the subject in a calm and logical
manner
2. Do not yell or use hurtful words
3. Above all else, remember that you love each
other and you are working to have a better
relationship.
FOR THE LADIES: if he thinks you are a nag,
then stop nagging. Nagging only makes him hear
you less. Men are "logical" and "problem
solvers". If you have a problem with him, present
it as such. It helps if you can use a real-life
incident that he can relate to and then know how
you feel. Just present your complaint then don't
say another word about it. DO NOT ARGUE!! It
will defeat the purpose of being calm, logical and
relatable.
FOR THE GUYS: don't be mean and ignore her. If
you have a problem with her nagging, the
problem is she thinks you don't listen to her or
understand her. Sit her down and calmly tell her
that you want to stop the conflict. Ask her
specific questions about why she acts the way
she does and then....(this is the most important
part)...YOU NEED TO REALLY LISTEN TO HER.
FOR BOTH OF YOU: sometimes your behavior
reminds your partner of a painful past
relationship and is scares him/her because they
are thinking they made a mistake in choosing
you. Both of you need to listen to and
understand each other. Most importantly, if you
love that man/woman like you say you do, then
you need to modify and/or eliminate the behavior
(s) that cause(s) the conflict.
Remember a relationship is a series of
compromises and not a power struggle. Show
the effort that your are willing to honor your
partner and he/she will be willing to do anything
for you.
Make God the center of your relationship and the
conficts will not be as major. Love with all
you've got and get that and more in return! Obas
as you ask? Both of you need to calm down and
take another approach or things can lead to the
end of your relationship.
Here are some suggestions to resolve your
conflicts:
1. Approach the subject in a calm and logical
manner
2. Do not yell or use hurtful words
3. Above all else, remember that you love each
other and you are working to have a better
relationship.
FOR THE LADIES: if he thinks you are a nag,
then stop nagging. Nagging only makes him hear
you less. Men are "logical" and "problem
solvers". If you have a problem with him, present
it as such. It helps if you can use a real-life
incident that he can relate to and then know how
you feel. Just present your complaint then don't
say another word about it. DO NOT ARGUE!! It
will defeat the purpose of being calm, logical and
relatable.
FOR THE GUYS: don't be mean and ignore her. If
you have a problem with her nagging, the
problem is she thinks you don't listen to her or
understand her. Sit her down and calmly tell her
that you want to stop the conflict. Ask her
specific questions about why she acts the way
she does and then....(this is the most important
part)...YOU NEED TO REALLY LISTEN TO HER.
FOR BOTH OF YOU: sometimes your behavior
reminds your partner of a painful past
relationship and is scares him/her because they
are thinking they made a mistake in choosing
you. Both of you need to listen to and
understand each other. Most importantly, if you
love that man/woman like you say you do, then
you need to modify and/or eliminate the behavior
(s) that cause(s) the conflict.
Remember a relationship is a series of
compromises and not a power struggle. Show
the effort that your are willing to honor your
partner and he/she will be willing to do anything
for you.
Make God the center of your relationship and the
conficts will not be as major. Love with all
you've got and get that and more in return! Obas
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